RIP Poppy Barlow..a little note on our community and loss…
I was deeply saddened this evening when I read online that Gary and Dawn Barlow had lost their fourth child.
They have named the baby ‘Poppy’ and are currently making plans for a ‘beautiful funeral.’ Poppy was still-born on Saturday in London.
The couple have three other children, Daniel, Emily and Daisy.
On a personal note, I count myself as a member of the ‘Thatter’ community and I was touched when I saw my twitter time-line filling up with messages of condolences and well-wishes to the Barlow family. I cannot imagine what they are going through, but I do know that to experience loss is to experience the full palette of human emotion in all its vibrancy and darkness. When it happens earlier in life it seems shocking to all. The Barlows do not have memories of Poppy in life to remember and mourn, instead the world will be full of ‘what ifs’ – buckling her into the car, her first birthday, meeting her brothers and sisters. For the rest of their lives they may feel like something is missing. But I do believe that somewhere and in some form Poppy still exists and that she is happy and waiting for her family to join her. I have that Gary and his family are needed as long as they need to recover from their loss.
I hope that they find joy and peace in knowing that she existed and that we as a community will always remember her as part of the ‘Take That’ family.
I hope this post doesn’t come across as insensitive or too personal, no-one owns grief and not one person experiences a loss in the same way. I felt like I wanted to write something though as tonight I have been feeling very sad for Poppy and her family.
RIP POPPY BARLOW